May 23, 2021
Whoever meddles in a quarrel not his own is like one who takes a passing dog by the ears. Proverbs 26:17 ESV
Nothing is new under the sun. Three thousand years ago, Solomon wrote about the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships that professionals in the field of psychology would later redefine. The above verse provides one such example: triangulation—or as some affectionately call it, “piggy in the middle.”
How then should we respond to others’ quarrels? Unless we have been asked to mediate, we should refrain from intervening. Otherwise, we will likely have our hand bitten (as would anyone who grabs a passing dog by the ears). What then is the correct course of action? Start with prayer—nothing moves without prayer. Then patiently watch and listen. In due time, if we are asked to mediate, we will be prepared to offer godly insights with gentle correction (Galatians 6:1).
Father God, grant us patience and wisdom to refrain from triangulating and instead pray and wait on your Holy Spirit’s lead. Amen.
Rev. Gordon Green, M.Div., M.A. Counseling